Spirit Crumbs

I ran away from home once. I was eleven years old, maybe twelve. I had everything I needed; my Labrador puppy and a fishing pole. A paper bag of dog food; Best Choice pepperonis for bait (the catfish—the big ones—they can smell it in the water).
I wanted stories to tell, and I thought that those were only to be found away from home. So I left. My optimistic sense of adventure only lasted while my internal compass remained magnetized. Not toward true North; I knew where that was, but toward Home. How the two might be related escaped me; I assumed I’d always know that Home was That Way.
Home, where my dad was mowing the lawn and my mom was planting flowers and my brother was practicing his classical guitar exercises. Where the dogs were, and the cats; I couldn't bring them all with me, could I? After all, there were nine of them.

My room too, was at home, with its jungle wallpaper and glow-in-the-dark stars on the ceiling. Mosquito net over my bed, tiger posters, photographs. All sorts of things I didn't think about missing when I took off into the woods. Because I was eleven—maybe twelve—years old with pigtail braids, cargo pants with pockets full of trinkets; a pocket knife, a puppy and a fishing pole. And I'd caught seven catfish that summer. Big ones, too. I'd be ok.

My internal compass only lasted a couple of hours. The woods can be confusing, and all the grain silos in the distance look the same. I realized I didn't know where Home was, and suddenly I was desperate to get back. I knew north and south, but was Home north or south of me? I began to panic. My puppy was tired; I carried him, my fishing pole dragging behind me, hooked to the belt loop of my Old Navy cargo pants. Terrified I had actually achieved my goal of leaving Home behind, I barreled through the brush in the direction I was pretty sure I'd come from. Head down, braids torn, tears gumming my eyelashes, I shielded my puppy with my arms as I burst through the edge of the tree line. Blinking in the sun, I could just make out the silhouette of my dad waving to me from the riding mower in our back yard. I lifted a hand, waved back. I guess I found my way; I guess I never got that far. I thought I’d gone so far.

I wish I could tell my younger self to be patient. There will be so many stories. You are living them right now, even though you don't realize it. You don't need to leave—even though you will, eventually—to find them. Life will happen. You don't need to rush it. It happens too fast as it is most times.

Still though, there's something to be said for making your own stories on purpose, I think.

Memories like this are important to me when the exhaustion—the complacency—of adulthood and its struggles (some universal, some unique to me) set in. I sought adventure once. I was not deterred by discomfort or inconvenience, if the result was an experience. A memory. Something more than the average; the day-to-day. It's been a tired few years, and there are other, more responsible things I should probably be focusing on, but I'm not ready to give that part of myself up. I'm not ready to stop risking; suffering consequences for the gain of a life that feels fully lived. I don't know yet what form that can take from here, but I know that it has to be something. Home is important; Home is essential. I need it, like I didn’t think I ever would (and I’m not sure how to feel about that; I wanted to be able to be nomadic and maybe once I would have been but I’m so tired so often now). But without some adventurous pursuit, I stagnate. I lose myself. I get bored. I stop doing anything interesting or productive and I buy too many different shades of lipstick.

I need adventure in the great wide somewhere.

But I know there are stories to be told from Home, too. Stories I lived when I didn't know I was living them. Hopefully in ten years I’ll be able to look back and say the same of now. I need to make more of them happen around here. Little things, but story-things still, when I can. It’s hard to do though when I’m dealing with a certain level of exhaustion almost constantly.

If you were to uproot all the trees in the woods of my childhood home, you would unearth many time capsules; little pieces of who I was then. Seeds of who I still am. Spirit-crumbs. Well-sealed, as best as I knew how between the ages of twelve and fourteen. Some were intended to be time capsules specifically—pages torn from diaries, song lyrics, photographs, baubles and perfume samples; things I felt represented the essence of myself at a particular period of time all sealed up in a mason jar with rubber cement and duct tape. Some things I buried as casualties of the war between my strong will and my people-pleasing tendencies. What was I to do when I was enraptured by the story of a Manga series I knew I would be taken away once it was discovered that a panel or two included nudity? By the time I stumbled upon the first slip of a cartoon nipple in book number four, I was deeply invested in these characters and their fate. I finished the volume, sneaked it out to the woods wrapped tightly in plastic and tape, and I buried it on the far side of the creek. I did this with each volume remaining in the series the moment I finished them, all bought with my hard-earned allowance. With each book I buried in the woods I fell further in love with the story, and further into the resignation that I was who I was and I loved what I loved—no matter how I fought it. No matter how badly I wanted to be “good”.

After years of doubt, guilt, and self-loathing, followed by years of desperate searching, praying, broken hallelujahs and begging for acceptance that was right there where I left it—where I’d been convinced by fundamentalism to lay it down as if I didn’t deserve it—I finally realized that I didn’t have to choose between being “good” and being who God made me to be. There was the redemption I needed and the redemption I only thought I did—eventually, mercifully, I found both.
Fourteen books are buried on the banks of Pony Creek. Fourteen books and two burned CDs; a mason jar full of letters, a t-shirt, a broken laptop computer.

I’ve hidden things elsewhere too; written prayers tucked beneath the pulpit of Weatherby Chapel, little paintings beneath highway bridges, a ring I don’t remember where, messages in bottles, notes in library books. Leaving a trail of myself; more spirit-crumbs. Why this type of preservation is important to some deep-seated part of me, I don’t know.

I used to think it was just because I felt the need to document; because I had fear of forgetting. A fear of all this—all I’ve been and all I am—being lost one day to a history so much bigger than me. All these moments just passing and disappearing into the inaccessible past with nothing material to give testimony to their occurrence. Maybe it is that, some. I write too, things I don’t leave behind. I have a bookshelf with over 50 completed journals in my bedroom, all filled with the bore of one unremarkable woman’s growing-up. Maybe I’m afraid of the forgetting, but I also have an overwhelming urge to drizzle my soul out, that it might be fully realized and understood—at least by me.

I think there’s more too, though. I think I need to live a story. I think I need to live things to write later, to remember, to tell.

I’ve lost track of that lately, and without it I feel aimless. Meaningless. I’ve gotten trapped in the everyday, the practical, worrying only about how to streamline necessities. Without something to live towards that reminds me--to my very bones--who I am and what I am; some adventure to revive my wild, primordial soul...that goal in itself feels empty.

I remember when I ran barefoot on the beach in La Jolla at night. I was only there for a week, and at first I tried my tennis shoes but they sunk so deep in the sand. I timed it every night, forty-five minutes of jogging on that color-sapped strip of beach out behind the hotel so I wouldn’t get fat on vacation. I ran the stretch of darkness between one dock lamp and the next; how they seemed to grow ever further away from me as I ran toward them. Somehow I reached them each time, back and forth again, afraid to step beyond the far halos of light as if some Cthulhus waited beyond, one on the other side of each circle. I ran back and forth between the two, their imaginary tentacles bouncing me back and forth like a ping-pong ball; so hollow and light compared to the roaring, invisibly dark ocean on one side of me and vibrant expanse of California on the other.

Had women made up the old myths, Poseidon surely would have been female. What else is the ocean more like than a womb, with thriving life inside? A womb that incubated the beginnings of all life billions of years ago before the first venturing of an organism out onto dry land. The ocean is Mother Nature's womb and if it has a ruler, it's a queen.

Small and white, insignificant, I’d return to the hotel room and rinse the sand from my feet but I haven’t forgotten the feeling.

The feeling of being such a little thing, with its little agenda, scuttling on the sand by the void of darkness hovering above the roiling black sea. Small as I knew myself to be, I felt I was on the edge of adventure—of a story—and that was enough for me.

In a few months I’ll see the sea again, and I know it will feel as if I’m coming home, like it does every time. I was not meant to be landlocked; I was not meant to feel quite so safe—unchallenged, unperturbed, uninspired.

I need to do things worth writing about; worth remembering. To live a life that teaches me something, hands-on.

There’s an abandoned house nearby that I’ve been meaning to explore with my camera in-hand. I’ve been waiting for someone to come along with me but maybe I’ll just go alone. That may be adventure enough for now, though nearly every day I think of Burning Man.
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