I’ve been thinking a lot about aging lately, and doing it, a little more each second. I used to look forward to growing old, growing beyond the cultural pressures of beauty and success. But these days I’ve been afraid of it—of losing my mind and what mobility and vitality I have. I never understood the attraction to the idea of a fountain of youth until recently.
If I should die before I wake…
But right now we are young and the angles of our faces aren’t yet lost in folds of skin. Let’s kiss while we’re like this and let’s not forget it; let’s take lots of pictures so we’ll remember. Future generations will stare wide-eyed at the photographs, barely believing that grandma and grandpa were once young and beautiful.
Or will we die just like this, our youth immortalized by an abrupt absence from time?
If I should die before I wake…
It seems presumptuous to assume that we’ll achieve old age when we have no idea what fate will give us for Christmas this year. There could be coal in our stockings, no matter how well we behave. We are nothing but a rush of air expelled from the lungs of God.
So we pray for good things and for lots of time, and I like to pray with you. Your prayers are prose and they are beautiful to me when the two of us join in divine conversation with God.
I often pray in my dreams. In the bad ones, of course I pray for Him to save me. In the good ones I say bless this food, our Father who art in heaven; now I lay me down to sleep. If I should die before I wake, if I should die before I wake…
But I never see God in my dreams. Maybe this means something. Maybe it doesn’t. But it’s funny, that for all the strange and wonderful and horrible and completely random things my subconscious has put me through, it has never offered up an image of God.
When I was a little girl, maybe four or five, I dreamt I was in a cemetery. Satan and his demons were gathered on my right, snorting and pawing the ground. They snarled at Jesus and his army of angels, who stood fierce and silent to my left. I was in the middle of them and they were preparing to battle for my soul. Maybe this means something. Maybe it doesn’t.
If I should die before I wake…
But I wasn’t afraid.
How such a little girl comes to dream of such things, I don’t know.
In my dreams my hair is long. Maybe this means something. Maybe it doesn’t. But that’s how it always is.
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I'd tell them, you know, if they wanted to know. I'd tell them all sorts of things.
Monday, March 31, 2014
Wednesday, February 19, 2014
It Is Winter
Winter seems so wasteful, especially when it snows. So many artfully crafted ice crystals sparkling in the light, beautiful together and individually, and then they turn to sludge. God, why do you waste the snowflakes? So many brilliant microsculptures, thrown away on mush. I suppose He can always make some more. Still, though. I think if I made them, each one would seem precious to me.
In the afternoon, the snowy horizon blends with the pale sky and it’s hard to remember that winter will end someday.
And there will be warm nights again, hot fire wood smoke hamburger grill and summer skin, and running through fountains; the doing of the things of summer.
It is summer 1996 and I eat the mulberries with the bugs on them accidentally; it is summer 2000 and I sleep in a tent.
It is spring 2008 and I paint a turtle’s shell; it is autumn 2012 and I find bones in the woods.
It is winter 2006 and I wither; it is winter 2009 and I bloom.
But really it is winter 2014 and I haven’t painted in a long time; it is winter 2014 and I am cold. It is winter 2014 and God blows cooly on the world and I shiver, but it is the breath of God nonetheless; I’ll do my best to embrace what the season has to offer.
It is winter and the cemetery looks more forlorn than ever. Of course in this little town, the dead rest in the lot beside the Price Chopper. The stones aren’t ordered in any particular way; they’re just scattered like a careless handful.
Now outside it is all winter-black. Frigid-darkness, cold-hard-obsidian-darkness. The dogs bark at something beyond the windows; they pace worriedly and I am unsettled. Dogs know what happens in the insidious black. Then as they snuffle my face it seems as if they also know what happens in the space between words; the oblivion you trip into when you’re walking up the stairs in the dark and you think there’s one more step but there’s not and you fall forward. The spaces that are the contractions of silence as it labors to expel certain words from its womb and they come crawling, groaning into this world like they don’t belong here at all. Like they belong in some other existence entirely. And yet they come bloated, distended with a truth that uncomfortably satiates the need for honesty. Stupid words, go back into the silence! But they just stare at me blankly, zombie-words, completely unaware of their destruction.
It is winter and I wish I could sleep through it; it is winter and I can’t feel my toes.
In the afternoon, the snowy horizon blends with the pale sky and it’s hard to remember that winter will end someday.
And there will be warm nights again, hot fire wood smoke hamburger grill and summer skin, and running through fountains; the doing of the things of summer.
It is summer 1996 and I eat the mulberries with the bugs on them accidentally; it is summer 2000 and I sleep in a tent.
It is spring 2008 and I paint a turtle’s shell; it is autumn 2012 and I find bones in the woods.
It is winter 2006 and I wither; it is winter 2009 and I bloom.
But really it is winter 2014 and I haven’t painted in a long time; it is winter 2014 and I am cold. It is winter 2014 and God blows cooly on the world and I shiver, but it is the breath of God nonetheless; I’ll do my best to embrace what the season has to offer.
It is winter and the cemetery looks more forlorn than ever. Of course in this little town, the dead rest in the lot beside the Price Chopper. The stones aren’t ordered in any particular way; they’re just scattered like a careless handful.
Now outside it is all winter-black. Frigid-darkness, cold-hard-obsidian-darkness. The dogs bark at something beyond the windows; they pace worriedly and I am unsettled. Dogs know what happens in the insidious black. Then as they snuffle my face it seems as if they also know what happens in the space between words; the oblivion you trip into when you’re walking up the stairs in the dark and you think there’s one more step but there’s not and you fall forward. The spaces that are the contractions of silence as it labors to expel certain words from its womb and they come crawling, groaning into this world like they don’t belong here at all. Like they belong in some other existence entirely. And yet they come bloated, distended with a truth that uncomfortably satiates the need for honesty. Stupid words, go back into the silence! But they just stare at me blankly, zombie-words, completely unaware of their destruction.
It is winter and I wish I could sleep through it; it is winter and I can’t feel my toes.
Thursday, December 19, 2013
The Fall of a Kite
When I was nineteen years old, I wrote a letter to the idea of a person. I thought I would give the letter to them if we ever met, if they ever existed. I was tired, I think, and I’m always more sentimental when I’m tired.
In the letter I felt compelled to tell this person about my earliest memory.
I was sitting on my dad’s lap in our old glider rocking chair, the one with the blue cushions all snagged and lumpy with age. I used to pick the little balls of lint absent-mindedly from the fabric. Dad was reading a book to me, an old vintage-looking book with pictures and names of animals—four per page against a forest-green background. At least, forest-green is the color of the page I remember; the other pages could have been different colors. He would say each animal’s name in a funny voice. For example: “pink flamingoooooooo” with a high-pitched lilt at the end of the drawn out sound. I don’t know how old I was; whatever age children are when they first start saying real words, words besides “mamma” and “dada”. That day, I pointed at the illustration of the long-necked pink bird and said, “Pink flamingooooo!”
I’ve never told anyone that before.
I was afraid no one would believe I actually remembered it.
I wrote about other early memories, too. A crystal bowl of oranges; scraping my face in a fall on my aunt’s steep driveway.
I remember a beach; I think it was in Seattle. It was too cold to swim, but I could taste salt anyway. Our bright Ninja Turtle kite stabbed neon green into the gray flesh of the sky, a diamond-shaped wound bleeding ribbons.
Months later that kite hung in our garage, covered in little baby spiders. I liked spiders back then; I don’t know what happened.
We threw the kite away eventually, and I mourned both deeply and briefly, as children do.
Strange how I can remember things from so long ago, yet yesterdays sometimes seem fragmented. These days my brain feels like a box with both ends open; things are put in just to drop out through the bottom. I deposited the information, but it isn’t there anymore. Recall is requested and I grasp desperately around my memory but so often I find only space, previously occupied.
I’m still waiting for someone to write my perfect song, an anthem for the people-pleasers and the not-enoughs; for we passionate, pining people, prone to both debilitating caution and mistakes. Those of us who feel the constant weight of debt, like we owe something to everyone. I guess the would-be writers are too busy desperately avoiding being burdensome, or maybe poring over their self-help books that they clutch like paperback bibles.
I’ve been busy too lately, in my brain. It’s been cold so I’ve been stuck between walls, and it’s cozy but I feel restless too. My thoughts have nothing to do but be popcorn in my skull, springing about with no rhyme or reason. I’ve been paralyzed by the random nature of their fleeting appearances.
I need to focus in that special way that I can only achieve on a horse. The popcorn settles, the urgencies fade, distracting excitement recedes and worry is forgotten. I am finally grounded, focused on the animal beneath me. On aligning our thoughts and movements until we are meshed; until we are no longer two shapes but one, no longer horse and woman but centaur. I haven’t ridden in over two weeks, and I miss my painted palfrey. It was nighttime when I sat astride him last. Darkness pressed up against us like a solid thing, broken here and there by a thin sheen of moonlight that drained the color from whatever it touched; the whole world in black and white. Together we were stars of the silver-screened night, for a little while.
And then it was just a memory, too; another kite to fly above the chilly beach where the past laps at the present shore.
In the letter I felt compelled to tell this person about my earliest memory.
I was sitting on my dad’s lap in our old glider rocking chair, the one with the blue cushions all snagged and lumpy with age. I used to pick the little balls of lint absent-mindedly from the fabric. Dad was reading a book to me, an old vintage-looking book with pictures and names of animals—four per page against a forest-green background. At least, forest-green is the color of the page I remember; the other pages could have been different colors. He would say each animal’s name in a funny voice. For example: “pink flamingoooooooo” with a high-pitched lilt at the end of the drawn out sound. I don’t know how old I was; whatever age children are when they first start saying real words, words besides “mamma” and “dada”. That day, I pointed at the illustration of the long-necked pink bird and said, “Pink flamingooooo!”
I’ve never told anyone that before.
I was afraid no one would believe I actually remembered it.
I wrote about other early memories, too. A crystal bowl of oranges; scraping my face in a fall on my aunt’s steep driveway.
I remember a beach; I think it was in Seattle. It was too cold to swim, but I could taste salt anyway. Our bright Ninja Turtle kite stabbed neon green into the gray flesh of the sky, a diamond-shaped wound bleeding ribbons.
Months later that kite hung in our garage, covered in little baby spiders. I liked spiders back then; I don’t know what happened.
We threw the kite away eventually, and I mourned both deeply and briefly, as children do.
Strange how I can remember things from so long ago, yet yesterdays sometimes seem fragmented. These days my brain feels like a box with both ends open; things are put in just to drop out through the bottom. I deposited the information, but it isn’t there anymore. Recall is requested and I grasp desperately around my memory but so often I find only space, previously occupied.
I’m still waiting for someone to write my perfect song, an anthem for the people-pleasers and the not-enoughs; for we passionate, pining people, prone to both debilitating caution and mistakes. Those of us who feel the constant weight of debt, like we owe something to everyone. I guess the would-be writers are too busy desperately avoiding being burdensome, or maybe poring over their self-help books that they clutch like paperback bibles.
I’ve been busy too lately, in my brain. It’s been cold so I’ve been stuck between walls, and it’s cozy but I feel restless too. My thoughts have nothing to do but be popcorn in my skull, springing about with no rhyme or reason. I’ve been paralyzed by the random nature of their fleeting appearances.
I need to focus in that special way that I can only achieve on a horse. The popcorn settles, the urgencies fade, distracting excitement recedes and worry is forgotten. I am finally grounded, focused on the animal beneath me. On aligning our thoughts and movements until we are meshed; until we are no longer two shapes but one, no longer horse and woman but centaur. I haven’t ridden in over two weeks, and I miss my painted palfrey. It was nighttime when I sat astride him last. Darkness pressed up against us like a solid thing, broken here and there by a thin sheen of moonlight that drained the color from whatever it touched; the whole world in black and white. Together we were stars of the silver-screened night, for a little while.
And then it was just a memory, too; another kite to fly above the chilly beach where the past laps at the present shore.
Tuesday, October 8, 2013
Winter in My Heart
I like October. I love autumn, of course, but I enjoy Halloween specifically. I like the otherworldliness that seems to descend upon the atmosphere. I like the thrill of unfounded fear, the things that make your heart pound but you know they won’t really hurt you. The dark unknown that prickles the back of your neck when there’s nothing behind you and the twisted faces of some primal fear contrived into physical forms that can be escaped if you run fast enough or if you stay very, very still and if they catch you…nothing happens. For one day a year I like looking into the painted face of play-pretend darkness, all dressed up with bright colors and sugar; a twenty-four-hour-long parade making a mockery of evil. It’s a day made from the vibrant scraps of everything in the world that people have vomited back up on themselves. There’s an intensity to it that I appreciate, an intensity like the post-apocalyptic dreams I’ve been having lately. I suppose you could call them nightmares.
When it was still September I dreamed peacefully. I dreamed that we walked by the sea, and that’s all that really happened. We walked in the blue cast of dusk, but the sand was still warm from the sun. The tide was low in my dream, the waves calm and lapping. They slid up on the shore like so many layers of frost-edged glass. We were supposed to have met earlier, but I spent too much time looking for a certain blouse.
I dreamed we walked by the sea, and that’s all that really happened.
But November’s coming, and December after that. Almost time for wasteful winter, tiny ice crystals brilliant glinting intricate artistry and oh so soon turned to sludge. God, why do You waste the snowflakes? Each masterpiece tossed to the ground to melt away. Melt like everything that was before; like time dripping from the hands of our clocks as the seasons change. They say that the tracking of time was man’s invention and yet the universe goes on marking it all the same no matter whose idea it was, with weather patterns and the aging of the things of earth.
You say you’re excited for the cold to come, and you really must be; you haven’t seen winter for a while now. But it’s only been a few months for me, and I can’t say I miss it yet. It must be winter in my heart though; it’s barely autumn and already I can feel a chill in the bones of my fingers and toes. A chill that creeps and stays and all the socks and gloves in the world won’t help because it is inside, in the deepest parts, in the marrow. In the core.
Like the core of the earth all safe and protected, all crusted with lithosphere and asthenosphere. If I touched that core, would the earth flinch? Would the entire world recoil from my prodding finger with a steaming hiss of pain? Or would it bite back, crushing my hand between two tectonic plates? Because that’s always where it hurts the most: the center, the heart of things. All soft and red and raw, nerve endings exposed and delicate veins just beneath the fleshy membrane, vulnerable and so ready to bleed.
I do like having my heart wrenched in little ways, though: books, movies, songs. I like being made to feel things, and abstract heartbreak is just so deliciously haunting I can’t help but love it even as tears fill my eyes.
I like being made to feel things; just not cold. Anything but cold.
.
When it was still September I dreamed peacefully. I dreamed that we walked by the sea, and that’s all that really happened. We walked in the blue cast of dusk, but the sand was still warm from the sun. The tide was low in my dream, the waves calm and lapping. They slid up on the shore like so many layers of frost-edged glass. We were supposed to have met earlier, but I spent too much time looking for a certain blouse.
I dreamed we walked by the sea, and that’s all that really happened.
But November’s coming, and December after that. Almost time for wasteful winter, tiny ice crystals brilliant glinting intricate artistry and oh so soon turned to sludge. God, why do You waste the snowflakes? Each masterpiece tossed to the ground to melt away. Melt like everything that was before; like time dripping from the hands of our clocks as the seasons change. They say that the tracking of time was man’s invention and yet the universe goes on marking it all the same no matter whose idea it was, with weather patterns and the aging of the things of earth.
You say you’re excited for the cold to come, and you really must be; you haven’t seen winter for a while now. But it’s only been a few months for me, and I can’t say I miss it yet. It must be winter in my heart though; it’s barely autumn and already I can feel a chill in the bones of my fingers and toes. A chill that creeps and stays and all the socks and gloves in the world won’t help because it is inside, in the deepest parts, in the marrow. In the core.
Like the core of the earth all safe and protected, all crusted with lithosphere and asthenosphere. If I touched that core, would the earth flinch? Would the entire world recoil from my prodding finger with a steaming hiss of pain? Or would it bite back, crushing my hand between two tectonic plates? Because that’s always where it hurts the most: the center, the heart of things. All soft and red and raw, nerve endings exposed and delicate veins just beneath the fleshy membrane, vulnerable and so ready to bleed.
I do like having my heart wrenched in little ways, though: books, movies, songs. I like being made to feel things, and abstract heartbreak is just so deliciously haunting I can’t help but love it even as tears fill my eyes.
I like being made to feel things; just not cold. Anything but cold.
.
Monday, September 30, 2013
Candy Conversation
Silence with you
Is like a smooth vanilla milkshake,
And your words
Are chunks of chocolate.
Every component is sweet
In it’s own way,
With it’s own texture and compliments
To the moments that come
Before and after.
Is like a smooth vanilla milkshake,
And your words
Are chunks of chocolate.
Every component is sweet
In it’s own way,
With it’s own texture and compliments
To the moments that come
Before and after.
Thursday, September 12, 2013
Side Effects
I'm trying out a new sleeping pill, and it puts me in such a strange state. I seem to float; like gravity has become half-hearted in its efforts to keep me grounded. The world is in slow motion but I am sharp and clear. Like I know something the rest of the world forgot. How is one supposed to fall asleep when there are so many thoughts to think? So much to tell the world? This medicine may not work.
I flicker in and out of existence and memory.
I remember the passenger seat; the wind blows away my sigh but I hope my expression is visible. I can feel it, my look of catlike contentment as the night air softly brushes my hair across my face. The glow of neon lights ebbs and swells as we drive; I can see the colors through my closed eyelids. We’ll be there in minutes but I’ll be bucket-seat-dreaming for hours, half awake. I feel I am here, I am near but I am unattainable; I am the thing you forgot on the tip of your tongue that you can’t find to say when the moment finally comes. I am Almost. I am continually arriving but never quite in the door. I am the brief flicker in your peripheral vision that you just missed recognizing. I am the end of your favorite song when you turn on the radio; I am your eyes without prescription lenses.
I am not sleeping tonight.
Have you ever sung a song to someone that wasn’t there? Have you ever talked to God through the ceiling? Have you ever been sad to outgrow a favorite toy; have you ever been homesick in your room.
When I was a child I would put some of my allowance into my coat pocket before it was put away for spring and summer. I always hoped that I would forget, and have a pleasant surprise when winter came again. Sometimes I remembered. One year I dug the coat out of storage so I could spend the money on a giant stuffed whale.
Maybe I should start doing that again; I need a pleasant surprise when the weather gets cold.
I’m cold now, even on a night during a summer swell. But then again, I could possibly be dreaming. Maybe the medicine is working after all; with these clouds in my head I'd never know. I guess that's why the bottle says not to operate heavy machinery.
I flicker in and out of existence and memory.
I remember the passenger seat; the wind blows away my sigh but I hope my expression is visible. I can feel it, my look of catlike contentment as the night air softly brushes my hair across my face. The glow of neon lights ebbs and swells as we drive; I can see the colors through my closed eyelids. We’ll be there in minutes but I’ll be bucket-seat-dreaming for hours, half awake. I feel I am here, I am near but I am unattainable; I am the thing you forgot on the tip of your tongue that you can’t find to say when the moment finally comes. I am Almost. I am continually arriving but never quite in the door. I am the brief flicker in your peripheral vision that you just missed recognizing. I am the end of your favorite song when you turn on the radio; I am your eyes without prescription lenses.
I am not sleeping tonight.
Have you ever sung a song to someone that wasn’t there? Have you ever talked to God through the ceiling? Have you ever been sad to outgrow a favorite toy; have you ever been homesick in your room.
When I was a child I would put some of my allowance into my coat pocket before it was put away for spring and summer. I always hoped that I would forget, and have a pleasant surprise when winter came again. Sometimes I remembered. One year I dug the coat out of storage so I could spend the money on a giant stuffed whale.
Maybe I should start doing that again; I need a pleasant surprise when the weather gets cold.
I’m cold now, even on a night during a summer swell. But then again, I could possibly be dreaming. Maybe the medicine is working after all; with these clouds in my head I'd never know. I guess that's why the bottle says not to operate heavy machinery.
Sunday, September 1, 2013
A Quartet of Unrelated Thoughts, Poetically
I hate the word “disease”.
It’s like spiders,
Or worms;
Something rotten,
Moldy cheese.
A defective specimen,
Like God said “oops!”
As something melted
In the oven.
I like the concept
Of mushrooms,
The way they thrive
On neglect.
Their elegant forms
And fairy rings;
The magical properties
Of decay.
Sometimes I wonder
If bugs feel pain,
And then I am overwhelmed
With guilt
For every crushed spider.
After all, they eat the flies;
What did they ever do
To me?
How very violent
The sole of my shoe.
Often I wish
That I could fly,
If only because then
I might not be so very bad
With directions.
.
It’s like spiders,
Or worms;
Something rotten,
Moldy cheese.
A defective specimen,
Like God said “oops!”
As something melted
In the oven.
I like the concept
Of mushrooms,
The way they thrive
On neglect.
Their elegant forms
And fairy rings;
The magical properties
Of decay.
Sometimes I wonder
If bugs feel pain,
And then I am overwhelmed
With guilt
For every crushed spider.
After all, they eat the flies;
What did they ever do
To me?
How very violent
The sole of my shoe.
Often I wish
That I could fly,
If only because then
I might not be so very bad
With directions.
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